U-ABBY Othandekayo: Eminyakeni eyishumi nanhlanu edlule “ngabalekela” izingane zami ezindala ngagcina ngizenzele imali.Bakwazile ukuhlala endlini ngoba ngangilokhu ngikhokha imali yendlu.Ubaba wabo - ex yami - wayehlala eduze komndeni.
Manje akukho neyodwa yezingane zami efuna ukuba nami noma yini ezongihlanganisa nomkhaya wami, futhi ayifuni ukungihlanganisa ngalutho.Ngisola ukuthi bazizwa belahliwe ngoba ngingumzali abangathembela kuye ngaso sonke isikhathi.Ingabe kukhona engingakwenza ukuze ngibuyisele ubuhlobo bethu?- Pennsylvania Runaway Umama
Mama Othandekayo: Yebo, tshela izingane zakho ukuthi uyawudayisa umuzi, ngicabanga ukuthi ungowakho manje.Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi bazoqala “ukuxhumana” nawe ngokushesha nje lapho izwi lifika kubo.Uqhubeka ukhokha kakhulu indlu ukuze babe nendawo yokuhlala.Uma kufanele "ubaleke" esidingweni sabo esingapheli, wenza konke ngendlela efanele.Sicela uyeke ukusetshenziswa.Uzisindisile futhi akufanele uzizwe kabi noma unecala ngakho.
U-ABBY Othandekayo: Ngisanda kuqala ukuxoxa nomfana wakudala.Ngiyamthanda ngempela.Besilokhu sikhona izikhathi ngezikhathi unyaka wonke ngoba sobabili sinezinto ekuphileni kwethu okufanele sigxile kuzo kuqala (njenge-bipolar disorder yami nokufuna ukwelulekwa).
Noma kunjalo, umngane wami omkhulu wasabisa ngokungikhipha ekuphileni kwakhe uma ngiqala ubuhlobo naye.Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo mfana ungenza ngizizwe sengathi ngiyavutha - ngendlela enhle, kunjalo.Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, angifuni ukulahlekelwa umngane wami omkhulu.Ngenzani?- Ukukhetha okunzima e-Illinois
Izinqumo Ezinzima ezithandekayo!Uphuthelwe okuthile okubalulekile encwadini yakho.Kungani umngane wakho omkhulu emelene nalo muntu?Unesikhwele?Ingabe lokhu kuhlobene nenkinga yakhe?Ingabe bekukubi ngesikhathi ugcina ukuba naye?Kubi kangakanani?Umngane wakho omkhulu angase azame ukukusindisa, kodwa akahlakaniphile.khuluma naye.
U-ABBY Othandekayo: Muva nje kufike umngane wami endlini yami.Nginikeza ikhofi nekhekhe, engiyisika bese ngiyibeka epuletini.Wathi wayengalambile ngaleso sikhathi, wayithatha waya nayo ekhaya ukuze adle wacela ukuba ngiyisonge noma ngiyifake esitsheni.Ngathi yebo, kunjalo, kodwa angikaze ngizwe ngento enjalo, nakuba abaxhasi bevame ukuthatha ukudla okudliwe uhhafu ekhaya besuka endaweni yokudlela.Ingabe angiyindawo lapha, noma nginelungelo lokushaqeka ngendlela engithuke ngayo njengamanje?umangele wamangala.
Mangaza othandekayo: Uma “ushaqekile” ngalokho akwenzayo, kufanele uzwele.Abangani bakho bathembekile kuwe.methembe.Angase alithande ikhekhe olinikezayo, kodwa ubuka isisindo sakhe futhi ucabanga ukuthi uzolifaka efrijini ukuze alijabulele futhi.Angiyazi imithetho yokuziphatha, ngokusho ukuthi amakhekhe kufanele adliwe phambi komninikhaya.
U-Abby othandekayo wabhalwa ngu-Abigail Van Buren, owaziwa nangokuthi uJeanne Phillips, futhi wadalwa ngunina, u-Pauline Phillips.Xhumana no-Abby Othandekayo ku-www.DearAbby.com noma PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Ngokubhalisa noma ukusebenzisa leli sayithi, wamukela Imigomo Yesevisi yethu, Inqubomgomo Yobumfihlo kanye Nesitatimende Sekhukhi, kanye Namalungelo akho Obumfihlo ase-California (Isivumelwano Somsebenzisi sibuyekezwe ngoJanuwari 1, 2021. Inqubomgomo Yobumfihlo kanye Nesitatimende Sekhukhi 2022 sibuyekezwe ngomhlaka-1 Julayi).
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